Living with a person that seems excessively narcissistic.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a mental condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for excessive attention and a lack of empathy for others. However, behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that's vulnerable to the slightest criticism. If you are concerned that someone in your life is a narcissist here are some of the characteristics and signs.

They appear to have a grandiose sense of self-importance, exaggerating their abilities and accomplishments. They believe they are superior and can only associate with people they perceive as equals or of high status.

They are often preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty, or the perfect mate.

They require constant excessive admiration and may become very upset if they don't receive it.

They often expect special treatment and unquestioning compliance with their expectations.

They often expect and demand that others cater to their needs and may be shocked or angered when this doesn't happen.

They often take advantage of others to achieve their own ends without guilt or shame.

They are often unable or unwilling to recognize the needs and feelings of others.

They may be dismissive, derogatory, or neglectful of other people's feelings or needs.

They may be excessively envious of others and believe others are envious of them.

They may come off as conceited, boastful, or pretentious.

They might insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car, athletic club, or medical care.

Here are some helpful tips that can help you survive relationship with this type of person whether it be your partner, boss or a friend:

*Set Clear Boundaries

Narcissists may not respect personal boundaries, so it's crucial to establish and communicate these boundaries clearly. This could include limits on the time you're willing to spend together, or defining acceptable behaviors during discussions or arguments.

*Protect Your Self-Esteem:

Narcissists can be highly critical and may belittle or invalidate you. Try not to internalize their criticism. Surround yourself with supportive friends or family, engage in activities you enjoy and that boost your self-esteem.

*Don't Take what they say Personally:

Narcissists often project their own insecurities onto others. If a narcissist is being hurtful, try to remember it's more about them than you.

*Avoid Power Struggles:

Narcissists often strive to be in control and can be combative. As much as possible, try to avoid getting drawn into power struggles with them.

*Practice Self-Care:

Living with a narcissist can be emotionally draining. Prioritize activities that help you relax, relieve stress, and take care of your physical health.

*Seek Professional Help:

Consider speaking with a mental health professional. Therapists or counselors can provide strategies to deal with the challenges of living with a narcissist, and support your mental wellbeing.

In extreme cases, narcissistic behavior can border on abusive. If you feel you're being emotionally, verbally, or physically abused, it's crucial to seek help immediately. Reach out to local authorities or a trusted support network, and consider contacting a hotline or local organization that assists victims of abuse.

written by Marjolein Brugman

Marjolein Brugman is the founder of lighterliving and Aeropilates. “lighterliving is a movement and lifestyle choice we can all make. Let’s make it simple – make one decision a day to be better and watch the small steps lead to big changes. Eat smart, stay active, and you’ll live to feel a lighter life."